A Tactical Guide to Asking for an Introduction | by Stacey Ferreira

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1. If you’re asking me for an introduction, you know me well enough to have my cell phone number, email address or are connected with me on Facebook or LinkedIn. Any of these mediums are fair game asking for an introduction to someone (with text and email being the easiest to get a fast response). “When you’re asking for an introduction, skip the pleasantries.” Chances are, at the the point of the ask, I either know you well enough to be willing to put my reputation on the line to make that introduction — or I don’t. A back-and-forth Facebook message or text won’t change that.

   In Introduction request scripts

2. When you’re asking for an introduction, skip the pleasantries. Asking me over text or Facebook “how is everything going?” only to make an ask is the wrong approach for me. I’m busy and you’re busy. I would love to catch up with you in person, but, I use my phone enough for work. Because of that I’m not super keen on having a two hour long conversation with you over Facebook messenger only to be asked for something that could have been asked for within the first message. “Chances are, at the the point of the ask, I either know you well enough to be willing to put my reputation on the line to make that introduction — or I don’t.” The Right Message

   In Selecting introduction sources

3. Asking your Second Connection For An Intro “If you’re asking me for an introduction, you know me well enough to have my cell phone number, email address or are connected with me on Facebook or LinkedIn. Any of these mediums are fair game asking for an introduction to someone (with text and email being the easiest to get a fast response).” When you’re asking for an introduction, skip the pleasantries. Asking me over text or Facebook “how is everything going?” only to make an ask is the wrong approach for me. I’m busy and you’re busy. I would love to catch up with you in person, but, I use my phone enough for work. Because of that I’m not super keen on having a two hour long conversation with you over Facebook messenger only to be asked for something that could have been asked for within the first message.

   In Specific introduction requests

4. If you’re asking me for an introduction, you know me well enough to have my cell phone number, email address or are connected with me on Facebook or LinkedIn. Any of these mediums are fair game asking for an introduction to someone (with text and email being the easiest to get a fast response). “Because of that I’m not super keen on having a two hour long conversation with you over Facebook messenger only to be asked for something that could have been asked for within the first message.” Chances are, at the the point of the ask, I either know you well enough to be willing to put my reputation on the line to make that introduction — or I don’t. A back-and-forth Facebook message or text won’t change that.

   In Specific introduction requests

5. When you’re asking for an introduction, skip the pleasantries. Asking me over text or Facebook “how is everything going?” only to make an ask is the wrong approach for me. I’m busy and you’re busy. I would love to catch up with you in person, but, I use my phone enough for work. Because of that I’m not super keen on having a two hour long conversation with you over Facebook messenger only to be asked for something that could have been asked for within the first message. “Chances are, at the the point of the ask, I either know you well enough to be willing to put my reputation on the line to make that introduction — or I don’t.” The Right Message

   In Specific introduction requests

6. When you’re asking for an introduction, skip the pleasantries. Asking me over text or Facebook “how is everything going?” only to make an ask is the wrong approach for me. I’m busy and you’re busy. I would love to catch up with you in person, but, I use my phone enough for work. Because of that I’m not super keen on having a two hour long conversation with you over Facebook messenger only to be asked for something that could have been asked for within the first message. “A back-and-forth Facebook message or text won’t change that.” The Right Message

   In Specific introduction requests

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